I went into hiding for a bit last week. I promised my editor a revision by Friday and to do that I needed to concentrate on nothing more. I also had two days from hell at work. I worked 24 hours straight, which wasn’t planned. What should have ended at 7:30pm on Wednesday night didn’t finish until 8am Thursday morning. To top things off we had the granddaughter over night. I swear this happens every time I promise to take her. I told my daughter no more when I have testing going on. LOL
T, was good though and slept through the night. Once she left Gram fell into bed for a few hours. It’s hard to believe she’s 18months already. She gives me the stink eye when she’s bold and tells me NO. She also has a fascination with money. She walks around rubbing her fingers together saying, “Money, money, money.” She’s her mother’s daughter!
I was also struggling with a friendship issue. I’ve talked about this friend, the drama queen, before and it seems drama rears its ugly head around my birthday. This friend has a habit of things being ALL about her. We’ve been friends for 26 years now.
Anyway a few days before my birthday she says, so you have a birthday coming, on the 10th right. I kindly say, “No, the 7th.”
The conversation shifts to something else.
As we’re ending the conversation for the day I tell her I’m leaving at lunchtime on Friday for the trip to Salem.
I return from my trip on Sunday, my birthday. Said friend called late Friday afternoon and left a message.
“Just calling to see what you’re up to.”
I shrug. So she forgot.
She calls Tuesday to tell me all about her issues. Never once mentioning my birthday. So I figure she’ll call on the 10th and wish me a happy birthday.
She calls the 10th only to tell me how much more the drama has increased. She calls the 11th and the 12th too. Never mentioning my birthday.
She did this two other times in the last four years. Once she called asked how I was, didn’t let me say a word and went into a tyrant about her current boyfriend.
Her birthday is 2 weeks after mine. She makes this huge spectacle about it every year. So the first time she ignored my b-day I didn’t recognize hers. The DH said I was being childish, but I was hurt.
Guilt got the better of the after that and I went back to making a big deal out of her day.
As her b-day gets closer there’s a big chance I’ll be in town, but I won’t be seeking her out. I’m tired of the one-way friendship. Believe me I’m not one to make a big deal out of my birthday, but a little Happy Birthday from someone who claims to be my best friend for 26 years isn’t asking much, IS IT?
Tell me am I overeating? Am I being sensitive?